Yesterday, one of my schoolboy fantasies finally came true and I found myself naked on a bed while two nurses (actually, a nurse and a female doctor) attended to my nether regions. Unfortunately, as I was in hospital getting a vasectomy, my fantasy rapidly came to a screeching halt – just about the time they stuck the first needle into my kibbles and bits.
That said, the whole operation was done under local anaesthetic, was entirely pain-free and took less than half an hour from pants off to pants on again. Today, apart from feeling like I’ve been kicked in the balls (unsurprisingly!) and having to walk around like John Wayne to stop the stitches chafing, I feel pretty good. In fact, the doctor said that although I shouldn’t ride a bike for a couple of days, I could have sex straight away if I wanted – though as the anaesthetic numbed my frank and beans, this would have been difficult. Still, this just shows what a minor operation it is.
At 38 years old, and after three children, it was an easy decision to make. But I’ve spoken to quite a few men about this, and a significant number of them absolutely refuse to have this operation done. Categorically. Even those who swear they never want another child. One married man with children even went as far as to say that he would rather go without sex than have a vasectomy. Why? Maybe they think it will reduce their ‘manliness’ – but if you already have living proof of your virility in the form of children, do you really need a form of self-validation that no-one else can see? Maybe it is the misconception that infertility can lead to impotence, but my doctor assures me that this is not the case, and I fully intend to put it to the test in the near future. Only one man had a ‘logical’ argument. He said that although he and his wife didn’t want any more children, if anything happened to his wife and he met someone else, he might want more children with his new woman. Sadly, he was stupid enough to say this directly to his wife so he is probably also taking the ‘no sex’ option as well!
Personally, I think it is a sign of strength to take this step and still be comfortable with your own masculinity. The operation is short and relatively painless, and a damn sight easier than either more children, or my wife getting sterilized. I’d also recommend my doctor (Dr. Brigitte Winnepenninckx at Heilig Hart Hospital in Leuven, Belgium) to anyone, so if you’re in the area and have half an hour to spare, go see her.
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